Types of men

Types of men

Now that last post was hectic it got a lot of passionate responses at the young adults couch talk show. If you missed the last one make a date with the young adults. In this blog we are looking at the types of men out there. Do you have a profile of the kind of man you want to hook up with. I know the ladies are always more organized in this than the guys. From about three you hear young girls talk about getting married and having children while the guys are playing cops and robbers or deceiving themselves that they are batman or spider man.

Well believe it or not there are no super heroes with six packs out there that come and rescue you from the dragon or the robbers but there are real men that eat normal food that sleep and get angry but still can win your heart. So wake up and let’s deal with the real world as we prepare to get married.  Can I begin with the notes that I highlighted in the previous blog on types of women this will help you not get depressed that there is no hero waiting to sweep you off your feet.

Please note
1.    None of them are irredeemable you just have to know what you are dealing with, God can work on them and develop other components or characteristics that you like or want to see
2.    Some of these people can change if worked on and dealt with well. The Bible says husbands must deal with their wives with understanding if things are to work well for you. My wife often says honey you have a tough job in understanding me because sometimes I don’t understand myself
3.    Some people are actually looking for some of the characteristics that might be a put of to another (EG. A weak timid man might need a queen of spades or a slave master because he feels she will get things happening. Men from mom headed homes are often soft and tender like Jacob)
4.    You can find some of these attributes mixed up in different people in different measures and like a salad you can increase the cheese and reduce the tomatoes
5.    You will have to do a trade of and say I am willing to take this even if it looks incomplete according to my profile of a spouse but I know that we can work on it.
6.    You might need to look at the raw materials of some of the things you desire from a spouse but be willing to work on them, because some raw material is just that raw material
7.    Be willing to accept that some things will never change. That’s always tough for people to accept
You might find that you want a bit of Casanova in the guy and two ounces of a pastor and a heap of raging bull in him have an action plan on how you can make that a reality. These characteristics when managed right can work for the good of the relationship

1. The Casanova
This is the typical heart breaker, little or no commitment to the relationship or to the person
Has little regard for your feelings
Very romantic (He's your ''Romeo and Juliet'' type of man, he's got the words, style warmth that would melt your heart but he can be generous with his romance with others)
He moves faster than yesterday’s news, here today gone tomorrow caught the next beauty that came by
His charm always wins him a girl to show of as a prized possession

2. The Raging bull
Full of energy and moves at high speed
He enjoys himself and life always out and about doing something
He enjoys his looks ''six pack and all'' uses it for his advantage
Will often make the woman feel that she is lucky to have him (Marry had her eyes on me so you better be glad you got me)
Can be indifferent about your feelings, was never taught to be affectionate and tender
Can stomp on you and hurt you and not know what he did

3. The cowboy
He wants to drive the relationship (not as a leader but as a boss)
He has a whip as part of his tools and spurs on his boots When you don’t listen he will use his tools)
He makes things happen there is momentum in the relationship but it’s at his pace (you feel pushed and driven along on the journey)
Can have little or no regard for your feelings he wants to achieve things
Travels a lot can be away for long periods of time ''for the good of the family'' while neglecting the family
Not very consultative independent spirit will not notice you till he needs something
He loves himself, very self centered will make noise when ignored
Believes in hard work and delivery & 'results'

4. The promise keeper (The covenant man)
He is unemotional about things and very principled
He is not very romantic not good with words
He is faithful and there, often make good father
He is loving and mindful of you (remembers anniversaries and birthdays including the children’s)
Expects high level of commitment from partner
Very time conscious and cannot understand those that are sloppy in this area

5. The genius
He is sharp intelligent and creative
He is committed because he has no time or energy to start another relationship
He is shy and introverted he is a thinker not very social but can thrive in a creative think tank of like minded people
He recovers slowly when let down because he is very committed to the relationship
Not very good with personal grooming
Not very good at conversation and relationship building

6. The worker
He delivers amazing things. He can cook, clean and manage the home better than his wife.
He is faithful dependable and reliable
He is naïve he thinks the whole world is diligent like him
He is not very fun to be around, no humor or idle chitchat “we have work to do”

7. The Pastor
Very sweet and boring kind of guy
Very loving warm and understanding and compassionate
Committed to relationship but needs to learn fun and adventure and fun and re-creation. Understands covenant though very loyal
Can be very good at giving attention outside without realizing the neglect at home
Very encouraging and motivational but does little around the house.

So ladies which guy do you prefer, like they say one woman’s meat is another woman’s gossip (lol) You might also want to practice the salad principle a little of this and a little of that and a big dash of that, and can I have the bacon well done please. Well that often work but know that then men come standard and your prayer and strategy can grow the other areas.

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