How to get married

Steps to getting married
 

There are many things that a occupying the minds of young adults but none boggles them like that of marriage. Who do I marry? What will it be like? Are they a virgin? Will they love me? Why should I bother about getting married? Well if you have had any of these questions in your mind at least once in the last two hours this blog is for you. I would like to help you as you navigate through the stormy waters of young adulthood. Having been there, done that, go the socks and all. I would like to be your friend and partner in going through these exciting times in your life. There is so much I have learnt over the years that I wish I had heard when I was a young adult and there is stuff I heard I wish I had listened to more closely.

Think of me as a friend and a tour guide as we sit together in “The young adults couch” and you are receiving final instructions as you embark on an amazing journey into life. I will share with you nuggets from the Word of God that will be both life changing and humorous. We will laugh together, cry together, pray together rejoice together we will study together and learn together and grow together. What I do know is when we are done you will be that much wiser than you are and all the more equipped to go on your journey never to remember me until we meet in the blog “Married and loving it” and “Financial revival”

Well lets get started and tackle our first subject. How to get married?  
In talking to many young adults I have come to learn that the difference between them getting married and remaining single is an attitude. Those that are not married and are dying to be, are an attitude away from getting into that special relationship. There are many wrong attitudes that I have seen in the lives of nubile young people listed below are some of the attitudes I have observed. Can I put a disclaimer here and say “Pastorxtreme is not responsible for any defamation or damage that may occur to any person while on this blog. Secondly please note that none of the words on this blog are targeted at any person known or unknown to myself or an relative known to me”
That was fun I’ve always wanted to say that.

Some wrong attitudes
1. Well he/she will have to like me the way I am
2. When the time comes it will happen he/she will come into my life and…
3. Let me be tough to him and see if he is serious
4. I must remain in prayer and he/she will come to me
5. I must to advertise extensively to get a catch

These are some of the attitude that I have seen in some people and they seem to remain there for a long time as opposed to short. Do you see yourself in any of those up there or should I list some more? A wrong attitude can put of even the right person. I have seen some young ladies act like porcupines when a young man begins to notice them. Whether he is the right one or not treat him right so you do not develop a bad reputation among the brothers and soon none of them will come close because they saw the holes in John. (Please note that there is an assumption that we are dealing with Christians here so the issue of worldly sister or brothers is not even considered)

Be clear about your position without being rude or nasty as the community that you are in is creating your CV for you. A wisdom principle says "The Company you keep determines who see’s you, and who see’s you determines who marries you” hang around the company you believe will potentially produce the kind of spouse you want to marry. While in that company focus on making yourself the best you can be as a person so that one day when he/looks at you something will register and say bone of my bone flesh of my flesh.

There is nothing wrong with being attractive to your potential partner; in fact you have to have some attraction if anything is going to happen. So look good guys, shave, deodorize, wash and iron the shirts, buy some breath mints learn to say “Hi my name is John” in that special way that will make her think of you later. Make an impression and remember the first impression last. Ladies dress well, do your hair nails, lashes and anything else that can be made except love. That should wait till you are married. Look good and feel good about yourself. Some people need a make over, loose some weight, get a new hairstyle, do a course open an email address. Hang around some place where you can be seen without making a big advert out of it. Have fun in life and let someone come and join you. Don’t expect someone to come and join your miserable life unless they have the gift of compassion.

I have listed below some of the things that you need to get as you prepare to cross over to the “Married and loving it” group. The Bible says in proverbs “Wisdom is the principle thing therefore get wisdom: in all you getting get understanding. If you get wisdom and understanding" with the same diligence you got to he mall to get an out fit or hair do or the same way you go to college to get a Diploma you will be successful in life. Here is a wisdom principle “Any problem you will ever face in life is a wisdom problem” and the Bible is a wisdom book in fact it the wisdom book. So get understanding and wisdom.

Here is some wisdom if you these things listed below you will also get a spouse. I hear a young lady saying “Well who says we all want to get married?” I know there are people that are gifted to remain single all their lives but often the ones that ask this question with an attitude are usually not gifted in singleness but pain and disappointment has caused them to become hard and cold and develop an attitude that is stopping even the sweetest man of God from walking into their lives. BE FREE IN JESUS NAME. Now receive it and go get these things and you will be fine.

Here is what you are to get
1. Get beautiful
2. Get anointed
3. Get connected
4. Get equipped
5. Get wisdom
6. Get diligent
7. Get mentored
8. Get some desire
9. Get fun and enjoyable
10. Get friendly 

Do you have all these in your shopping basket? 

Hey these look like hot topic that we can look at in the following blog. So get ready to have fun with these. Let me know what you think about what we covered and we will go on an amazing journey. May I suggest pink and burnt orange for your wedding colors. 

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