Types of men

Types of men

Now that last post was hectic it got a lot of passionate responses at the young adults couch talk show. If you missed the last one make a date with the young adults. In this blog we are looking at the types of men out there. Do you have a profile of the kind of man you want to hook up with. I know the ladies are always more organized in this than the guys. From about three you hear young girls talk about getting married and having children while the guys are playing cops and robbers or deceiving themselves that they are batman or spider man.

Well believe it or not there are no super heroes with six packs out there that come and rescue you from the dragon or the robbers but there are real men that eat normal food that sleep and get angry but still can win your heart. So wake up and let’s deal with the real world as we prepare to get married.  Can I begin with the notes that I highlighted in the previous blog on types of women this will help you not get depressed that there is no hero waiting to sweep you off your feet.

Please note
1.    None of them are irredeemable you just have to know what you are dealing with, God can work on them and develop other components or characteristics that you like or want to see
2.    Some of these people can change if worked on and dealt with well. The Bible says husbands must deal with their wives with understanding if things are to work well for you. My wife often says honey you have a tough job in understanding me because sometimes I don’t understand myself
3.    Some people are actually looking for some of the characteristics that might be a put of to another (EG. A weak timid man might need a queen of spades or a slave master because he feels she will get things happening. Men from mom headed homes are often soft and tender like Jacob)
4.    You can find some of these attributes mixed up in different people in different measures and like a salad you can increase the cheese and reduce the tomatoes
5.    You will have to do a trade of and say I am willing to take this even if it looks incomplete according to my profile of a spouse but I know that we can work on it.
6.    You might need to look at the raw materials of some of the things you desire from a spouse but be willing to work on them, because some raw material is just that raw material
7.    Be willing to accept that some things will never change. That’s always tough for people to accept
You might find that you want a bit of Casanova in the guy and two ounces of a pastor and a heap of raging bull in him have an action plan on how you can make that a reality. These characteristics when managed right can work for the good of the relationship

1. The Casanova
This is the typical heart breaker, little or no commitment to the relationship or to the person
Has little regard for your feelings
Very romantic (He's your ''Romeo and Juliet'' type of man, he's got the words, style warmth that would melt your heart but he can be generous with his romance with others)
He moves faster than yesterday’s news, here today gone tomorrow caught the next beauty that came by
His charm always wins him a girl to show of as a prized possession

2. The Raging bull
Full of energy and moves at high speed
He enjoys himself and life always out and about doing something
He enjoys his looks ''six pack and all'' uses it for his advantage
Will often make the woman feel that she is lucky to have him (Marry had her eyes on me so you better be glad you got me)
Can be indifferent about your feelings, was never taught to be affectionate and tender
Can stomp on you and hurt you and not know what he did

3. The cowboy
He wants to drive the relationship (not as a leader but as a boss)
He has a whip as part of his tools and spurs on his boots When you don’t listen he will use his tools)
He makes things happen there is momentum in the relationship but it’s at his pace (you feel pushed and driven along on the journey)
Can have little or no regard for your feelings he wants to achieve things
Travels a lot can be away for long periods of time ''for the good of the family'' while neglecting the family
Not very consultative independent spirit will not notice you till he needs something
He loves himself, very self centered will make noise when ignored
Believes in hard work and delivery & 'results'

4. The promise keeper (The covenant man)
He is unemotional about things and very principled
He is not very romantic not good with words
He is faithful and there, often make good father
He is loving and mindful of you (remembers anniversaries and birthdays including the children’s)
Expects high level of commitment from partner
Very time conscious and cannot understand those that are sloppy in this area

5. The genius
He is sharp intelligent and creative
He is committed because he has no time or energy to start another relationship
He is shy and introverted he is a thinker not very social but can thrive in a creative think tank of like minded people
He recovers slowly when let down because he is very committed to the relationship
Not very good with personal grooming
Not very good at conversation and relationship building

6. The worker
He delivers amazing things. He can cook, clean and manage the home better than his wife.
He is faithful dependable and reliable
He is naïve he thinks the whole world is diligent like him
He is not very fun to be around, no humor or idle chitchat “we have work to do”

7. The Pastor
Very sweet and boring kind of guy
Very loving warm and understanding and compassionate
Committed to relationship but needs to learn fun and adventure and fun and re-creation. Understands covenant though very loyal
Can be very good at giving attention outside without realizing the neglect at home
Very encouraging and motivational but does little around the house.

So ladies which guy do you prefer, like they say one woman’s meat is another woman’s gossip (lol) You might also want to practice the salad principle a little of this and a little of that and a big dash of that, and can I have the bacon well done please. Well that often work but know that then men come standard and your prayer and strategy can grow the other areas.

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Types of women

Types of men & women in the world

I was taught by the best and I had the privilege of knowing some important ingredients about the final steps before you even consider whom to marry and I want to share with you in this blog. We had a blast at a talk show we hosted a few weeks back on what to look at as you prepare to get married. Have a laugh in this blog and discover yourself or your potential spouse and you do this review.

Part of preparing to get married means you have to know what you are getting into a relationship with because you do not want too many surprises. One too many surprises is too many so here is a rough guideline that will help you. My Dad Dr. Shana taught that there are certain types of women that you will meet out there and that you have to know how to handle them or else they will handle you. There are some ground rules to know before you read these notes other  wise you will freak out and say well that’s not me or he is not like that.

Please note

1. None of them are irredeemable you just have to know what you are dealing with, God can work on them and develop other components or characteristics that you like or want to see
2. Some of these people can change if worked on and dealt with well. The Bible says husbands must deal with their wives with understanding if things are to work well for you. My wife often says honey you have a tough job in understanding me because sometimes I don’t understand myself
3. Some people are actually looking for some of the characteristics that might be a put of to another (EG. A weak timid man might need a queen of spades or a slave master because he feels she will get things happening. Men from mom headed homes are often soft and tender like Jacob)
4. You can find some of these attributes mixed up in different people in different measures and like a salad you can increase the cheese and reduce the tomatoes
5. You will have to do a trade of and say I am willing to take this even if it looks incomplete according to my profile of a spouse but I know that we can work on it.
6. You might need to look at the raw materials of some of the things you desire from a spouse but be willing to work on them, because some raw material is just that raw material
7. Be willing to accept that some things will never change. That’s always tough for people to accept

Right here we the first type of woman

1. The competitor
She will try and show you off to her friends and prove that she has the better guy
When she leaves you she brings around the new guy to show you that I have a sub and I am fine without you. Showing off is key to her, as she feels good about it, it’s an ego booster
She holds on to you strongly in a bid to always have the right public appeal
She wants you t be amazing in your accomplishments so she can have something to talk about
She can be a strong motivator but a poor friend because her motives are often selfish

2. The Slave master
Control freak (She is in charge, where we go, who we see, color of the car we buy, how you dress) she can be called “The mother” (Someone with a compulsive desire to exert control over situations and people.)
You become a slave of love she makes you unhappy when she feels she is not in charge
She wants your world to revolve around her (Where were you? You didn’t call me, whose number is this?)
From a model of a domineering mother or fear of looking week
Or grew up in a mother/child headed home (no picture of a solid family)

3. The wounded shrew
Always communicating pain hurt to get attention and empathy
She makes you feel like the hero/doctor love (Oh ever since you came into my life I have been so happy)
Wants you to pay attention to her (I am going through so much)
She will even create a fight so she can get attention (You came late again I felt so unloved…)
Always needs love, when healed they create new wounds because they feed on the attention
They are demanding and difficult to get along with
They want your time space and attention all the time

4. The hiding beauty
She does not think/realize that she is beautiful
Or she might know she is beautiful and fears getting taken advantage of therefore she hides it (They feel people are just coming for her beauty)
They have confidence issues; they want to be complimented often so they feel loved
Thy can be a bit schizophrenic (I’m beautiful and I not sure if they see it, they see my beauty and will take advantage of me, maybe I am not beautiful enough)
They need snow whites mirror (the ugly which and the raving beauty are fighting)

5. The desperado
They are desperate to be loved
Any one can do just to get love; they flaunt themselves at men hoping for a catch
Will use sex to get attention will flaunt her sexuality to get love
Is very aggressive in pursuing the relationship. Once you show interest she will sink her claws deep into you and will not give up easily
(Guys are often scared of by desperate women they think if it’s this easy to get who else got?) Guys feel that the pursuit has got to have adventure in it “hard to get is often attractive to them

6. Flower in the wind
Blown about all over the place, not very stable and not very committed to the relationship
Is in the middle of the road about life “Well whatever”
If the lotto of love blows my way I will get a man.
Even when pursued she would rather not commit herself too much she is open to anything. This often serves to protect herself from the pain of rejection “Well I didn’t think it will last anyway”
She is sweet and loving though when she is caught
She is a high maintenance person you have to keep pursuing

7. Queen of spades
She says I love you but you don't deserve me. You have to work hard to qualify for her approval
“Dress like this do that go there” keep up appearances or you will pay
She is tough on the outside but often very soft and insecure inside. She needs the love and does not want to show it
She will place many demands that help her feel secure in your love by meeting them. When this is not done you will have a storm on your hands